damemarie asked: so, i've been single for about 3 years now, i honestly stopped looking due to a lack of confidence and low self esteem. i've recently started looking again, and got on some bbw sites. i'm still scared though. i have this nagging thought in my head that maybe some of those guys don't know the meaning of bbw, that maybe they're in the wrong site, or that they're just on there to poke fun. i'm teffified of being rejected. any advice you can give me? or to calm my erratic thoughts? thanks!
Yes: “looking” is one thing, but being on a site and letting them find you without thinking about it much is easier on the mind. Rejection’s a fact of life. It fucking blows. The more it happens, the less terrifying it is, I promise. Lots of guys don’t know what they’re doing on those sites, but rest assured it’s not your fault if they reject you because they “didn’t know what BBW meant.” And come on, they know what they’re doing. Just like the ones who “only” fucked a fatty because they were drunk.
Either way, the ones dumb enough to hurt you generally spell so poorly you’ll be laughing too hard to care. Just make the screening process very rigorous for yourself before committing to meet someone in person. And you should work on your self-esteem and confidence whether you actively look for someone or not.