Anonymous asked: I'm 15, male, and a rather serious person. I also like fat chicks, which I've known since puberty. My problem, which I'd like to ask, is if you have any advise on how to deal with a family [mine] that is what I'd call "fat phobic"? "I'd just kill myself if I ever got that fat", "Oh look at that pig.", "She shouldn't be wearing that", are all common things I hear every day. I've already told them I like fat chicks, and am baffled by their continuing to do this. Should I simply ignore my family?
I’m afraid that’s the only choice for now dude, and I have to say your courage is incredible to be upfront to your family about a sexual preference at your young-ass age. I wasn’t ready to blurt it out myself until 18 or so.
On the bright side, you’ve got a far earlier start on developing a thick skin and dating your kind of ladies the right way than most. I don’t know how your relations with your family are most of the time, but it’s worth telling them it’s disrespectful once in a while when it particularly irks you, and ignoring it the rest of the time as an exercise in restraint.
Save the true vitriol for if and when they ever say something about or (hopefully not) to a girl you bring home. That’s when you bring out the “respect me and the girl I am dating by keeping nasty remarks to yourselves” big guns.
And if they’re really that bad all the time, do your best over the next few years to develop the connections necessary to make an easy transition into an apartment or college dorm the second you can get the fuck out. Invest your mental energy in keeping your friendships tight if those are the supportive people in your life. Just don’t let any of it get you down on yourself. Good luck.