Anonymous asked: hi, i'm a bisexual girl who is currently happily dating a gorgeous fat girl. there's one problem though. i can tell that she's kind of insecure about her size. it's like she doesn't believe me when i say she's insanely hot. sometimes i think it has something to do with the fact that i'm rather skinny and have had eating disorder issues in the past (which i've discussed with her). how do i convince her that i think she's beautiful?
Take your pick:
1. More discussion
2. More (body) love
3. More time
4. All of the above
The more you guys communicate and trade physical affections should at least improve things, regardless of how much or how slowly.
The other technique I usually bring up—though it doesn’t work for everyone—is to show her similar bodies that you think are hot, either in porn or on Tumblr. Do that if you think it would help for her to know she’s the norm for your predilections rather than just someone you’re being incredibly nice to. Adipositivity’s a great place to start, and they’re fresh off their victory over the dickholes at Tosh.0.