Anonymous asked: Ah darn it. The third part of my question didn't send? :/ Well, I didn't drink after all because he decided not to have me over that night. He said he was just going to crash out early. I think when he realized that I wasn't going to get drunk (therefore he wasn't going to have his way with me as easily as he may have wanted), he saw no reason to have me over. He said "we'll chill another night". Now whether that night will ever come, who knows. Thank you for your input :) I suppose I was having
Anonymous asked: he sent a text message asking me how big my chest it (I am very well-endowed). My heart sank a little when I read that text message. It made me feel that whatever interest he might've had in me was purely sexual. Then last week, he said he wants me to go over to his place sometime. He tried to get me to go over, but he wanted to drink (and drink quite a bit). Alcohol isn't really my thing, but I did tell him that I'd have just one or two drinks. I guess he wasn't too thrilled about it, so (cont)
The third part of this question never sent. But with the info I have I don’t understand why you think he doesn’t “like you for you.” He’s into your body and it sounds like you have fun conversations too. That checks both boxes, mental and physical.
That said, I’m not looking forward to hearing what happened after you drank when you didn’t want to. :(
EDIT: Ah, yeah I missed the part where he skipped right from coworker friendness to boob questions. If that’s not the case though and you guys were just Escalating, I don’t think it’s objectionable in itself. But it sounds abrupt.
Anonymous asked: There's this coworker of mine who I find very handsome. He has a great personality, and makes me laugh every single time I'm around him. I was starting to wonder if maybe, juuuuust maybe he might like me "for me" even though I'm a 5'5", 240 lb woman with a whole lot of curves. I feel like he's too handsome to like me. (if that makes sense). Still, I was trying to convince myself that there could very well be a possibility that he DOES like me. That was until one night after work, (continued)
Anonymous asked: how do i know if the guy i like is in to fat chicks? because the guy i like only talks to chubby girls and flirts with them, but he doesnt pay attention to me or my two friends as much as he does with them. should i getfat?
Let him have the chubby girls dude. There’s like a billion guys into your body type, I’m sure one is rad.
Anonymous asked: Thank you!! I spent my whole life in a thin body until the past several years. There are many reasons why I'm unhappy with the extra 60 pounds I'm carrying, but I'm glad to know that lack of good loving doesn't have to be one. Best wishes to you and all of your readers :)
And to you. You can either embrace them or lose them but don’t let anyone make you think you’ll only be able to find a good, attractive partner if you don’t do one or the other.
Anonymous asked: I was in the closet for a long time and recently started dating a chubby chick and all of my insecurities about it were baseless. Nobody cared and those who did respected me enough to hold their tongues. Seriously guys, dive in. It's worth it, and as long as you are firm about it people won't be dicks (at least in my experience)
This too has been my experience.
Anonymous asked: MEOW MEOW MEOOOW. I'm a sad kitty CAET because you don't know who VP is. (Ask your roommate about kitty KATZ with the initials VP). xoxo <3 VP
Anonymous asked: ...i´m not sure he really understood, that i asked to protect myself. he wanted to know, if i like my body. i do but i still feel very huge compared to him and i´m unsure if he can handle me. he has seen recent realsitic pics of me, but clother cover good and i´m afraid he will show a negative reaction. we are both looking for a casual encounter, nothing too serious. i hate that i am so insecure when it comes to men, i´m 28 for god´s sake, i should know better! any advice on how to behave, dan?
Oh, I missed this last part. I mean if it’s for a casual encounter, throw caution to the wind. I don’t think someone looking for a no-strings night with a bigger girl is going to turn you down at his door and start all over when he apparently takes weeks to communicate and set up a casual encounter in the first place. (Ask if he’s been tested and wear a condom though)
Anonymous asked: ok, so i met this guy on okc and we´re chatting for a while now. he wants to meet me and suggested a date. i´m hesitating, because he is shorter and way thinner than me. my body type is somewhat inbetween chubby and fat so i asked him if he has a preference for big girls. he said that he recently discovered, how much a fuller figure turns him on & to him i seem just curvacious. i have a feeling he doesn´t really get, that i´m beyond curvy with a visible tummy, big jiggly thighs & small boobs.TBC
I understand that a lot of people do this, but here are my personal OKC rules:
1. Within half a dozen messages, phone numbers, or some kind of offsite communication handles should be exchanged, unless the other person specifically references some kind of special circumstances why not (if they had a stalker or something, which is not a reason to not still take their willingness to lead you on with a grain of salt).
2. HAVE AT LEAST ONE FULL BODY PIC AND THE WORD BBW IN YOUR PROFILE, NEAR THE TOP, POSSIBLY A FEW TIMES. YES IT SUCKS PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE. YES IT WILL SAVE YOU ANXIETY LATER.
3. I’m a thin white male so it’s not for me to tell people what to reveal about themselves, because I’ve never been harassed on a dating site. But I don’t see how putting in something like “Only contact me if you’re interested in dating a girl over 300 lbs” (or whatever number’s appropriate) won’t help weed out the confused guys in the long run. I haven’t asked any girls I know to research whether or not this leads to fewer positive responses. But there’s no way it can’t help someone looking for your body type find it.
4. ALWAYS report anyone who’s an asshole to you on OKC. You might be satisfied to just block or ignore them, but take away their microphone. Prevent them from harassing you again or others. The more we get rid of harassing voices, the more people will be comfortable showing their actual body on these sites, and more people will find the right partner looking for the things they might normally have chosen to hide from their dating profile. People looking to date someone over 300 lbs. would like to know to be able to find them, just like someone looking to not date someone over 300 lbs. wouldn’t want to waste their time (or yours). Do not be afraid to be picky.
Anyway, in your case? You can either tell the guy what you just told me—“Look, I’m bigger than you seem to think and before we meet up I need to know that that’s okay so here’s a pic of my thighs and my tummy. If you still find me attractive, I’d love to meet up.”—or you can risk it at this point because you feel you’ve made a good-enough connection and been explicit about your size, and maybe in real life he’ll be happier with a bigger figure than expected. I wouldn’t advise this last thing because I personally don’t like to meet up with anyone without asking an obnoxious amount of “are you sure?” questions.
But the number of guys who don’t even realize how big they like their girls yet is staggering, and proves that many people’s preference isn’t set in stone, and oftentimes the media or something could scare them away from a weight number when they didn’t even realize someone could be a sexual human at that size in the first place. Still, guys without a clear idea can be jerks. Proceed with caution. Your case sounds like it could be the real thing though; he at least sounds willing to rediscover what he’s attracted to.
Anonymous asked: Chubby chick at my school whom I find very interesting (all aspects of her person) and we actually have been talking as friends for a while but I'm kind of scared to ask her out for all of the reasons that I mentioned but I think I'm gonna take the plunge now. I appreciate the artificial backbone people. Wish me luck! :)
I definitely do wish you good luck. And it will hardly be the worst thing in the world if dating fat girls makes a few people think you’re gay. Keep me posted on how it goes with the interesting girl, man.