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jesuslovinfatchick asked: I really need a man, but I don't want to meet one online. It's way too awkward. I've had awful experiences. How can I tell if a guy is into fat girls? Is there a special pheromone men put off if they are into fat women? A tattoo? Does the pitch of your voice deepen? Seriously though...

Until it becomes society-acceptable enough that a girl over 300 pounds can get hit on by a stranger in public and not at all worry that she’s being pranked by a frat asshole, the fat dating axis has mostly relied on the internet. What was specific to the internet about why your experiences were awful?

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i-stole-the-lexx asked: Yes! I really hate being fetishized as a big girl. Seriously, I have some creepy person who messages my inbox every week demanding pictures of me. It has gotten to the point where if I see I have a message, I get nervous.

That’s terrible, you’ve tried blocking/reporting? But please don’t blame fetishes or his preference for big girls for his shitty behavior and harassment…

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Anonymous asked: We follow each other on Instagram, I was wondering if you were single?

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jennylewren asked: I really get what you're saying. Instead of people saying "I am not your fetish" or "Don't fetishize me." they should just say "Don't sexually objectify me, you do not have my consent." I have a fetish but I don't repost or reblog photos and I've only ever experienced it in consenting situations. Whenever people talk about how fetishisizing someone is bad, it makes me feel fucked up as a person. But fetishes aren't bad. Any unwanted sexual objectification is bad, fetishy or not.

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Anonymous asked: Just as a side note on the "fat fetishism" post- I think the reason I've always been really uncomfortable with someone fetishising my weight, is that it is straight up objectification. A woman's body is her own- it's not an act or a game w/ roles that can be played (well, some "rolls"). You know? It's okay to be attracted to certain things, but I believe that there is a big line that could be crossed that goes from treating someone as a sexual subject to a sexual object.

Any woman of any size can be affected by objectification that isn’t consensual. ”Straight up objectification” isn’t for you—great. Many people, including yours truly, enjoy being objectified with consent. Again, it’s not the idea of “fetishism” (stoppppppppppp) or objectification that hurts people. It’s anything sexual that’s unwanted and unwelcome. Many “fat fetishists” (STOPPPPPPP) are guilty of this. As well as shitty men of all other stripes.