January 2012
91 posts
nzingas-conquests asked: I just came across your blog today and im not sure if you just follow back people that follow u but thank u so much for following me back. I really appreciate you (via your blog lol). Before I go- additional thanks for giving one of your followers the real deal about finding a guy (online, et cetera) and not some ole crap about being confident, blah, blah, blah. Also, I really like your writing...
obesitas asked: I'm sure you've answered this before, but do you find fat women more "natural" than thin women or "average" women? Do you see them as more pristine? More real?
800 FOLLOWERS
thx yo
Anonymous asked: Would your girlfriend ever be open to fucking women? The hottest thing I can think of right now is her and another girl getting it on...
Anonymous asked: I used to listen to Dan Savage a lot but I heard a podcast of his once where he was blasting this one guy that tried to argue that homosexuality was wrong because homosexual partners didn't live as long, therefore it was totally unhealthy (which is complete bullshit, I agree), but then he (meaning Dan) turned it around by saying "well fat people are obviously unhealthy so let's ban...
ongradschool asked: Do you listen to the Savage Love podcast? On this week's episode Dan Savage took a call from a 28-year-old closeted straight male FA and basically ripped him a new asshole, telling him to, "Nut up, motherfucker." Definitely worth a listen.
Anonymous asked: is size 12 fat?
Anonymous asked: Hi, it's me "anonymous" with the 6yr relationship & baby from about 10 days ago. I guess the reason it's hard for me to believe is because he HAS cheated on me in the past, & these 6 yrs have not, in any way, shape, or form, been easy or completely together. Perhaps I should have been more specific in my original post. That being said, now I feel like shit for being...
heyfattiefatfat asked: Hello, so I've had my blog for over a month now and I just wanted to say thank you. :) Had you not done that interview on The Jay Thomas Show, I would not have my blog and all the overwhelming support I've gotten in such a short amount of time. You're awesome. :D
elizabethmypoison asked: your blog is amazing! awesome to come across you and your girlfriend, it's brilliant to see a gorgeous, confident big girl and yourself for being so passionate about your taste in women. you remind me of me and my boyfriend, in the best possible way :) x
catfever7 asked: You are a music guy and you do have good taste in music. Because of you and your gf I discovered Lana Del Rey's music. I was wondering though, if you've heard of City and Colour/ Dallas Green? And if so what do you think of his music?
catfever7 asked: You and your gf are super hot and cute together. How long have you been together?
Anonymous asked: What does your gf do for a living? Also random q but what bra size does she wear? wanna know where she finds good ones
angelcrossmarie asked: can you post a link to your gf's blog?
Anonymous asked: You're awesome. Just saying.
Anonymous asked: You and your girlfriend are amazing. I follow her blog and she's one of the most fabulous fat girls ever. Now, the question: I'm a fat girl, 290lbs, I love myself and think I'm pretty attractive. A while back, I filmed my boyfriend and I having sex. When I looked in the mirror, I looked hot as hell (to me) but when I watched the video, I was embarrassed by how gross I looked. He...
Anonymous asked: That quote wasn't meant to say that if you think you're hot everyone will too, more just that if you are insecure with your body it will come across to those you date/want to date. It's not meant to be over-idealizing or shaming those who don't feel that way, more showing the dangers of self-fulfilling prophecies in this situation.
Anonymous asked: I'm a very large girl and I have no problem being naked during sex, before, after, on a Sunday afternoon, doing dishes, playing with my cat, talking on the phone- any time. (ha just kidding! I dont do dishes!). I'm gonna put a quote out there for you ladies: "if your size is a problem for you, it's a problem for him" - conversely, if you think you're sexy, he will...
Anonymous asked: From your blog there seems to be plenty of FA or at least men who don't care too much about size. But for some reason I can't seem to find one. I have confidence so its not like my self esteem is the problem, and I just in the wrong place for it, or the wrong time? Im a 19 year old who only gets to talk to college guys fyi.
Anonymous asked: How do you feel about open relationships? It seems like there are more open couples in the FA/bbw community- any theories as to why? Would you ever consider having an open relationship yourself?
deliriumgrey said: I’m the asker, and I’m about 270 at the moment. And it’s not that I don’t lose myself during sex, even naked, it’s that I have a lot of trouble taking my clothes off in front of him. Once they’re off, I forget about it, at least til it’s we’re done.
Hopefully...
Anonymous asked: I'm a fairly large girl, and I don't like to be naked during sex. This really bothers my long time boyfriend, who says that I'm very sexy. Where I'm having issues is that all his previous girlfriends have been very petite and skinny, and I feel like I just can't compete with that. Every time I think about it, I feel horribly unattractive and disgusting. Have you ever...
Anonymous asked: you should change your name to askaguywholikestobeacompleteassholeforaskingaguywholikesfatchicks
Anonymous asked: Have you ever been contacted by or know of any famous/celebrity Fat Admirers?
Anonymous asked: I'm sure you've been asked before, but as a fat chick, how am I supposed to believe my boyfriend (of 6 yrs, with whom I have a baby) when he assures me that I am not disgusting or gross or horrible? Ever since I had the baby, my fat awesome body has felt like it betrayed me and I don't feel awesome any more. He says I still am - how can I believe him?!
Anonymous asked: Why won't you post your fetish? Sorry for prying but I'm curious as to what it(they) is and if we share the same ones.
Anonymous asked: Sorry, one more virgin question: do you find that FAs are more open to older virgins? Theoretically I’d think they’d be more sympathetic than non-FAs who may not have as great an understanding of the roles size and conventional beauty standards play in self-esteem and dating, right?
akissforeachpage asked: I just wanted to say thank you and I hope that you and your girlfriend are very happy together! x
thelouringlady asked: To the anon who asked you about your girlfriend's health, maybe you should also advise him/her to maybe ask a question to the actual person who is involved in said question? Why do people want to ask about a fat person's health and the discrimination they face but ask it to anyone BUT said fat person? It feels like they think fat people are liars that way....which I'm sure they do....
Anonymous asked: Thanks for the articles. Very eye-opening.
Anonymous asked: Does your girlfriend have health or mobility issues? I'm asking because I'm in an ongoing debate with someone about whether fat people can live healthy, active lifestyles. I'm just curious.
Anonymous asked: Do you think a closeted FA came up with the idea of "hogging" in the first place?
Anonymous asked: I watched the MTV true life episode and was kind of put off by it. for starters, the straight guy kind of suggests that he started dating fat chicks because skinny girls had big egos, got hit on by other dudes, etc, and fat chicks gave him "full attention." He says "big girls--they're not supposed to come with drama." Thoughts? You can watch it on the mtv website!
Anonymous asked: Not sure when you'll see this, but tonight(1/11) on MTV's True life they have one on chubby chasers. Seems interesting, so i thought i would let you know.
serpentskirts asked: Mostly I just wanted to tell the lady who was upset about people trying to get their kink all up in her vanilla that the best way to determine if a potential partner is into the same things is to talk about it openly, like a proper adult. If you can't handle talking about sex, you shouldn't be having it. If you're not into the topic of conversation, explain as much, very clearly. In...
serpentskirts asked: Re: "Maybe people would be even less creeped out if they stopped generalizing all fetishists."... You have to think about the definition, though. The "necessity" of it is what likely makes people uncomfortable, because that can lead to thoughts about non-consensual acts, etc. Example: Frotterists rubbing up on the unsuspecting without their consent.
serpentskirts said: This is the way it’s taught in standard psychology courses, as well. A preference is NOT a fetish. People might be less creeped out if the incorrect terminology weren’t thrown around so readily is all I’m sayin. No one’s saying a preference is a fetish. Two very different things. I have both, but I write about one and not the other. Maybe people would be even less...
serpentskirts said: “an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression” Again: if I’m a fetishist and I’ve...
Anonymous asked: dan would u go on a date with me (this is drew)
getarealfuckingproblem asked: A date is where you put your best foot forward, where you show the other person all the best things about you...if a guy can't afford or won't pay for a beer or a salad what else can't he or won't he be able to provide in the rest of the relationship? I'm not saying a man should pay for everything all the time or any other antiquated, misogynist notion, just that the idea...
160cms asked: Ok. Just wanted to make sure, 'cause I'm from Mexico and in our culture, it is common and -basically- a social norm that whenever going on a date, the guy pays. Thanks for answering.
160cms asked: Does it still apply, in these "modern times", that men pay whenever going out with a girl?
annegotfat asked: Did you know there are actually many more men who prefer fat chicks that aren't feeders or fat fetishists than there are actual feeders and fat fetishists? I would actually prefer to find the terrible vial feeders so many fat women despise but find them much harder to locate than the run of the mill FA. Then again some of those nonfeeder FAs have other different fetishes...
serpentskirts said: I just dislike how freely the word ‘fetish’ is thrown about. Interest/like/preference is not a fetish. If you can’t get off without it, it’s a fetish. Big difference there on a psychological level.
Fetishists can get off from sex that doesn’t include their...
Anonymous asked: I just recently started to realize that there actually are people who like me for being fat. But I haven't been able to meet anyone and then have that turn in to something more and I'm tired of being single. Is there anyplace in or near Buffalo, NY that is for FA's and BBW's or do you have any suggestions on how I can meet someone? thanks I really appreciate it! P.S. ...
GO FIGURE
Whenever I’m sure a post is going to lose me followers, I gain like ten.
FETISHES
Some fetishists are assholes, as are plenty of nonfetishists, maybe even you. As a kinky dude, it’s totally disheartening to me to get messages trashing kinky dudes or asking me to validate hateful bullshit generalizing them. More often than not my answer will be: “you’re being a tightass.” Please adjust questions accordingly. On a side note you’re making me...
Anonymous asked: Why don't guys with feeder fetishes or whatever actually, you know, find a woman into that stuff instead of hoisting it upon normal women who happen to be fat? The male to female ratio can't be THAT skewed in fat fetish land, can it?
