lol, that sounds about right. I hate his music. If you didn't recognize him I was going to describe him as that guy who trolls us into watching his shitty music videos while we are perusing BBW Youtube videos.
You can mute that stuff. But a tripod could direct better porn, and it holds the camera steady too.
I love your blog. Everytime something from it pops up on my dash it puts a smile on my face. I'm sure it has the same effect on most ( if not all )of your followers. I think it's important for people to know that someone out there is gonna like them, no matter what there body is like. All of your followers will find someone ( that could very well not be an FA) that likes everything about them and treats them like a person, and I think your blog helps them see that. Thank you! :D
Thank you, and yes, I hope they see that it’s all possible.
I feel like I've exhausted a lot of the online resources to meet guys, and I still come up with nothing... I'm just getting frustrated with putting myself out there time and time again coming up with nothing. What to do?
I can’t really advise you because I don’t know how you’re putting yourself out there or what resources you’re using. Wait? Keep trying? Take a break?
What are some hot tricks fat girls can pull out to impress in the bedroom? I'm going to be moving things into the bedroom with my skinny boyfriend for the first time soon and I'd like to do something a little more exciting for him.
Well, be yourself for the first time. What are you good at? Since fat girls have cushioning and crevices all over, give him a good all-over experience. Use what you’ve got and implore him to explore you back. Then the more you fool around with him, the more in tune you’ll get with each other’s bodies and find new ways to involve all your bits.
ok dan legit question, probably been asked before but; what the fuck is wrong with the scene in california and why are there only bashes in the upper eastern block ?
I know pretty much nothing about California despite the fact I write for three different Cali newspapers but my guess is something to do with the Hollywood body image craziness over there maybe? But wait, you guys have the Butterfly Lounge and Vegas Bash?
If a girl fell in love with an FA, more than likely would he still love her if she lost some weight and became more fit? A higher percentage of FA's would do what?.. Sorry this sounds naive before I even press ask..
Sad to say, most FAs are in the closet, which shows you how much a good many care about their partners. Losing weight is a sore subject, I’d imagine it depends on the guy and how much of your connection is really beyond the physical. My advice is to lose the weight and obtain the body you want to maintain before you start dating.
"I don’t follow; this sounds like something there’s lots of" Yeah, you would think. I'm talking about Celestial or Patty placing a person in between the folds of their belly. I don't see enough pocket use either. If I had those awesome folds and rolls, my hands would never leave them.
So I'm a big girl- in the 300 range, and I'm just now actually discovering there's a scene of people who like and prefer fat girls. Part of me wants to love me for who I am- fat and all; and part of me wants to be healthy. How would I know if I am or would be into having sex with an FA? I understand that this might be a question I may have to find out for myself.
You can be fat and healthy. Do healthy things and love your body unconditionally. No one said you have to hate your body to exercise or eat good things. And the only way to find out if you’d enjoy fucking an FA is to fuck an FA.
But all “FA” means is someone who loves fat bodies, and you have a fat body, so I can’t imagine why you wouldn’t want to fuck someone who loves your fat body. If the first FA you fuck sucks, it still makes sense to keep meeting guys who love your body. Don’t just decide whether or not you love yourself or plan to slim down based on the first FA you fuck.
I'm happily dating an exbf. The only thing I seem to complain about is we don't have sex enough or I always have to arouse him and that he looks at BBW porn when I'm 5'0 and weight 110lbs. I have curves and he tells me I'm sexy but I don't get why whenever I'm away he looks at BBW pics and videos. I've asked him about it and he said its funny to watch and he's not into it. I think he has a fat fetish but won't admit it due to humility. I don't know what to do. any comments?
That’s because he’s a flaming, dyed-in-the-wool, belly-grabbing, roll-fucking plumper-humper. There’s a billion guys who would love to fuck a 5’0 110 lb. girl with curves, you should find one. For bonus points, stay friends with your soon-to-be ex-ex-bf and encourage him to find a hot fat girl like the ones he clearly enjoys.
You keep putting "great guy" in quotation, like I'm degrading a guy for having a fetish. I'm not. Nor do I think less of a person for having an open sexual appetite. That'd be like saying gay guys are less of a person for liking dick up the butt. - I personally just don't understand the fetish behind feeding. And having always had weight be such a big deal, the whole point was to wonder if there's no hope for someone that doesn't focus on it.
You’re misreading—they’re not scare quotes. You yourself used the phrase “great guy” and I’m emphasizing that you admit the guys you’re turning down are otherwise great. It’s not that there’s no hope, it’s that there’s nowhere you can relocate to or anything you can do to change the percentage that you’re already aware of, and you’re okay with playing the odds. Also, the guys don’t understand the fetish either; welcome to fetishes. And not that many gay guys like it up the butt. In fact, more straight women are enjoying anal on a regular basis than gay men.
I like chubby girls and when I was about 13, I over heard my dad tell my aunts and uncles about the websites in the computer history I'd been searching. It's caused me to avoid serious relationships with girls, thick or thin, because either way, when I brought them home, I'd know exactly what my parents and my extended family would be thinking. I'm 21 now and I've told a few of my friends about my preference but don't know how to bring this up or get around the situation with my family.
You’re overthinking this. First and foremost, if the only incident you can point to was seven years ago and it hasn’t been brought up since, your dad and aunts have long forgotten.
Second of all, what exactly do you think they’d be thinking? “He’s dating a chubby girl again because that’s what he likes”? “I don’t know why he keeps bringing home thin girls when it’s obvious he likes fat girls”?
Finally, why do you have to bring up anything to your family at all? Getting around the situation would be dating some girls and putting the fear out of your mind that someone in your family is going to somehow embarrass you about your sexual preference. Find a relationship first. Then bring her home later on and cross that bridge when you come to it. I guarantee the first thing your family won’t be thinking of will be your web history from age 13.
And FWIW, I’ve totally been there; after staying up all night looking at fat girls on the family computer (oh, so many nights) and quickly hitting the power button when I heard a noise, I scurried upstairs only to find out the next day from my dad asking why the computer desktop had been changed to something “uh,different”. He changed it back to normal before mom woke up but yeah. I think I blurted out some amazingly bullshit excuse about a prank virus a friend sent me before sprinting away.
What's this, I missed you at Chunky Dunk? That's what happens when one has to go sans glasses in the pool! Too bad as I would've liked to shake your hand. For other Portland-area folks looking for fat-friendly fun, check out Jelly Roll--there's a community page on the facebook with all the pertinent information.
I was invited but I didn’t go to Chunky Dunk. Man, my memory’s so bad lately. Where’d that other Portland chick go?
With all this talk of objectification, I want to jump in with 2 points: 1. it's important to distinguish between "feedee" and a "gainer", because there can be a degree of play in being with a feeder vs automatically gaining 100 lbs and 2. there's a level of objectification inherent in all sexuality- it's about straddling the line between carnality and lovey-dovey. And being comfortable with whatever line you and your partner have. Idealizing is as dangerous as being dismissive. GGG is right, yo.
1. I dislike making a distinction between feedee and gainer. The terms are all stupid and that’s just nitpicking. We might as well just as say “giver” and “receiver”. I want to impale anyone in the skull who uses “foodee” as a sexual label as well. Anyway, some people live out their fantasies to a greater degree than others. The only possible reason to split hairs beyond that is to set people apart for judgment and I don’t see the need.
2. I’m pro-objectification; I like being objectified myself and a good chunk of my sexuality involves objectification. But that’s my choice and I wish people who didn’t want to be objectified (re: women) didn’t have to deal with a world that gave them no choice. I wish that all groups—male, female, fat, thin, etc.—could be objectified equally. I wish that one group wasn’t reduced to another. I wish that people didn’t base their other behavior towards a person, especially towards women, on whether or not that person chooses to objectify themselves.
But one way that I don’t kid myself is that I don’t see objectification ever going away. And it becomes a matter of choosing the right battles to help it become better regulated in society. It’s the same thing with offensive humor; I love offensive jokes but I wish all other groups could view them with the same light and audacious enjoyment that I get from my privileged white perch. I don’t believe telling them to shut up or censor themselves is the way to reduce the actual hate in the world. I wish all groups had the same level of access to each other’s cultures and foibles. I wish for fair game. I’m over-idealizing though. You’re right, it is dangerous.
There was a guy I met on a dating site that was an obvious feeder. But he was also funny, smart, and we had a lot in common. He was constantly encouraging me to eat lots of fattening food, and told me about sexual fantasies involving cake. That didn't make him a bad guy. I thought it over and came to the conclusion that indulging in his fantasies once in a while would be ok with me. I like cake, I like orgasms, why not? He did turn out to be a bad guy, but not because of his fetish.
Sucks that he turned out to be a bad guy, but at least he had his sex ducks in a row.
I agree with what you are saying about turning down a guy JUST because of a fetish... but there is always a big difference between a guy who wants you to eat cake in bed and a guy who actually wants you to gain weight. I am about the biggest I wish to be, so I couldnt ever be with a guy who wants me to actively TRY and gain weight though that said I do believe in compromise and nothing with with fun in bedroom surrounding food/feeding, but surely you can see why girls WOULD turn down a 'feeder'?
There’s a huge gulf of difference between turning down gaining weight and turning down a guy who’s turned on by it. It has virtually nothing to do with the fetish itself and all about the character of the guy.
Try and reconcile my two hardlines here: 1. you shouldn’t change your body for anyone else and 2. you shouldn’t turn down someone just for being a fetishist.
shoshanainlove said: that came off as kind of harsh… there are a lot of women who don’t want their weight fetishized and who don’t want to gain weight or have to live up to those expectations.
No one’s making them and I wish anyone, male, female or trans, luck in finding a partner who’s just as boring in bed as they are. But when you’re unhappy with an admitted pool of “great guys” who are sniffing at your door it’s maybe time for some self-reflection on why you’re turning down great guys and if anything can be done to make you both happy. I think turning down a non-creepy fetishist outright—and not exactly one who wants to shit on her face—for no other reason is her problem, not theirs. Dan Savage’s term for a desirable sex partner is GGG: good, giving and game. Having finally experienced sexual partners with those qualities I myself would never settle for less again and you shouldn’t either.