May 2013
6 posts
Anonymous asked: if i ask u a question off anon will you please not respond publicly?
Anonymous asked: thank you for answering that anon with such compassion and with a detailed honest answer. i thought it was really touching. and thanks for this blog.
Anonymous asked: Well, I am a fat chick, and I have kind of gotten this idea lately that I am worthless because of this. I have thought about killing myself a lot lately because I feel like people are generally disgusted when they look at me. Anyways, I wanted to know what about fat girls is attractive? I just really need a reason to not think I am a worthless sack of crap anymore.
beesknees10 asked: Oh crap, I asked you a question whether you considered me a bbw, Then I scrolled down and read your previous answers. Never mind, Have a good day! I love this place by the way :)
Anonymous asked: why you no post no more? :(
TODAY IS INTERNATIONAL NO DIET DAY
so love fatties and eat crazy
April 2013
11 posts
Anonymous asked: do you have a picture of yourself online?
koolbeanskool asked: Great advice, thank you. Actually it was my wife that jumped to the conclusion that she will get it. Her insulin levels were very high(which is a pre-diabetic symptom). The doctor said relaxed and calmly that if she does not control it with diet and exercise, it can lead to diabetes in the near future. You're right, it's her body and she must do what she wants, even if it hurts me, I...
koolbeanskool asked: Hey I was wondering, what are your thoughts on diabetes? My wife, who is 230 lbs, is on the track to getting it in a few months if she stays the same. It is genetic in her family, and she has had this happen before but controlled it, but when she was younger. Now she is going to try to control it by losing weight, her goal is 160 which is really good for her but not so much me. I am being...
“What if all women were bigger and stronger than you? And thought they were...”
– For The Men Who Still Don’t Get It, Carol Diehl (via sassysluteverforever)
Anonymous asked: Ok there's this fat girl at school I like. I know my friends would have no problem if I dated her but there's other kids at my school who are total dicks and would probably make fun of me.
Anonymous asked: Are all of these questions about the "caet" some kind of in-joke?
Anonymous asked: Hello Daniel. As you are aware, I am a skinny caet, but if I were faet would my upper body be called my faet upper pussy area (aka fupa)? meow meow xoxo <3 vp
Anonymous asked: moral of the story is, if you like fat girls don't do what i did, go for them to start with and save yourself the trouble of going into relationships with girls you don't find sexually attractive that are sure to end with a break up for various reasons.
Anonymous asked: I came out about a year ago, when i was younger i always tried to date thin girls just to impress my mates and sometimes even tried to have long term relationships with them. Without going into detail, it simply didn't work. When i first came out, there was something i realized; nobody really cared that i liked fat girls, it was just accepted and people moved on with their lives. since then i...
embracingmyawesome asked: you are beyond Epic ... thanks for following me :)
Anonymous asked: Forget what I said about the sexual tension. I guess it was never really real. Yesterday, he made plans to chill and get drunk at his place with two of our female coworkers RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. Never once did he look at me and say, "hey, you wanna come over too?". I guess he was turned off by the fact that alcohol isn't my thing. I can never seem to find a guy who likes fat chicks...
March 2013
154 posts
primaspazzerina-deactivated2013 asked: Hey! Thank you for the follow back! (although you may regret it...lol)
Anonymous asked: Damn what happened here while I was gone? Out of context I don't know what half of these asks are talking about. I'm sorry but could explain all this to me?
Anonymous asked: For you what is the minimum a girl has to be to turn you on?
Anonymous asked: It's the "coworker girl" again. Oh man. There is way too much sexual tension between him and I. Let's face it...we're going to end up hooking up in some way or the other. Lovely .__.
unhappyhappyaccidents asked: I met up with a guy from OKC. We started talking and I really thought we were hitting it off well. We flirt/send pictures over a few weeks and the whole time he has a girlfriend. I told him I wasn't going to DO anything with him until she was out of the picture. The day comes and he breaks up with her, so he and I hook up. Next day, they're back together. No contact since. I feel so...
Anonymous asked: a hard time believing that he could genuinely be interested in me because his ex-girlfriend is really thin. I guess my mind just automatically assumes that if he dated a thin girl, there's no way he could dig a fat chick like me afterwards. Stupid, I know. I guess that mindset is just due to lack of self-confidence. Anyhow, I work with him tomorrow night. Needless to say, I'm excited...
Anonymous asked: Ah darn it. The third part of my question didn't send? :/ Well, I didn't drink after all because he decided not to have me over that night. He said he was just going to crash out early. I think when he realized that I wasn't going to get drunk (therefore he wasn't going to have his way with me as easily as he may have wanted), he saw no reason to have me over. He said...
Anonymous asked: he sent a text message asking me how big my chest it (I am very well-endowed). My heart sank a little when I read that text message. It made me feel that whatever interest he might've had in me was purely sexual. Then last week, he said he wants me to go over to his place sometime. He tried to get me to go over, but he wanted to drink (and drink quite a bit). Alcohol isn't really my...
Anonymous asked: There's this coworker of mine who I find very handsome. He has a great personality, and makes me laugh every single time I'm around him. I was starting to wonder if maybe, juuuuust maybe he might like me "for me" even though I'm a 5'5", 240 lb woman with a whole lot of curves. I feel like he's too handsome to like me. (if that makes sense). Still, I was...
Anonymous asked: how do i know if the guy i like is in to fat chicks? because the guy i like only talks to chubby girls and flirts with them, but he doesnt pay attention to me or my two friends as much as he does with them. should i getfat?
Anonymous asked: Thank you!! I spent my whole life in a thin body until the past several years. There are many reasons why I'm unhappy with the extra 60 pounds I'm carrying, but I'm glad to know that lack of good loving doesn't have to be one. Best wishes to you and all of your readers :)
Anonymous asked: I was in the closet for a long time and recently started dating a chubby chick and all of my insecurities about it were baseless. Nobody cared and those who did respected me enough to hold their tongues. Seriously guys, dive in. It's worth it, and as long as you are firm about it people won't be dicks (at least in my experience)
Anonymous asked: MEOW MEOW MEOOOW. I'm a sad kitty CAET because you don't know who VP is. (Ask your roommate about kitty KATZ with the initials VP). xoxo <3 VP
Anonymous asked: ...i´m not sure he really understood, that i asked to protect myself. he wanted to know, if i like my body. i do but i still feel very huge compared to him and i´m unsure if he can handle me. he has seen recent realsitic pics of me, but clother cover good and i´m afraid he will show a negative reaction. we are both looking for a casual encounter, nothing too serious. i hate that...
Anonymous asked: ok, so i met this guy on okc and we´re chatting for a while now. he wants to meet me and suggested a date. i´m hesitating, because he is shorter and way thinner than me. my body type is somewhat inbetween chubby and fat so i asked him if he has a preference for big girls. he said that he recently discovered, how much a fuller figure turns him on & to him i seem just curvacious. i...
Anonymous asked: Chubby chick at my school whom I find very interesting (all aspects of her person) and we actually have been talking as friends for a while but I'm kind of scared to ask her out for all of the reasons that I mentioned but I think I'm gonna take the plunge now. I appreciate the artificial backbone people. Wish me luck! :)
Anonymous asked: 1. Looking for help not pity...was totally cool with not having my question shown. 2. I don't want to be considered gay because .... I'm not. Much like a gay person wouldn't want to be whispered about that the were secretly really straight. 3. It's not so much that I care what they think rather i don't want to be isolated. Now finally though thank you for your advice...
bumdick asked: How likely (in your opinion, and because I need guidance) do you feel that someone who is a closet FA is likely to ever come out? With that question, do you think that most closet FAs are only interested in using fat chicks as a fetish (much like men who fantasize about specific porn, but never fully intend to act on it); and what do you feel are good signs at being able to tell the difference...
jennylewren asked: Your friends aren't dating the girls you date. Neither is anyone in your family. If they have a problem with who you date, it's just that, their problem. Not yours. If they're gonna give you a hard time about it, they're not that great of friends anyways. And why would you want to care about what a bunch of assholes (who don't have your best interest in mind!) think? The...
jennylewren asked: I might have been a tad harsh. But if I had a nickel for every post I've seen on fat admiration sites about guys too afraid to date fat girls I could make a best of album and retire. Likewise I've been on the receiving end of closeted men pursuing me and so when I see questions like that it might just be a knee jerk reaction for me to assume whoever the poster might be is looking for...
chocolatemilkandbaklava asked: I'm thinking of writing to my state rep to ask her to enact legislation prohibiting workplace discrimination based on weight. Currently the ADA doesn't apply to most fat people (unless you're considered "morbidly obese" by some standard). But some cities and the state of Michigan have anti weight discrimination laws, and I'm hoping to add my state to that list. In the...
Anonymous asked: How should I deal with dating a skinny guy? Because I know that since I'm fat and he's thin..we stick out and I'm afraid of being targeted TBPH. I know that I can't not date in order to protect myself from fat shammers but the idea of holding hands and walking down the street and being verbally assaulted is heart breaking and terrifying. I know I shouldn't allow them to...
R.I.P. BOSTON PHOENIX
Michael Marotta at Boston Phoenix, which ceased publication today after 47 years, is of a dying breed; he let me review great, mostly unknown albums from Emperor X, Wussy (pre-conflict of interest—my band’s since opened for them, proudly as fuck), Serengeti and Open Mike Eagle. He trusted his reviewers’ taste. Also let me interview DJ Shadow and Divine Fits. Very proud of my work...
alwaysfacingthesun asked: I dated a guy who would take me out on dates but when he would be met by someone he knew he became very uncomfortable--the same people who look down on OUR bodies look down on their CHOICES! Said guy is still a very close and dear friend to me but nothing became of the dating--SOCIETY needs to grow up. It takes a lot to walk out of my door each day with my head high--26 fucking years worth of...
dankiidoll asked: he gets asked if he's gay(as if that makes sense), he's always being asked why he likes big girls, he has skinny girls hitting on him while he's with me(mind you he's not even attracted to them), he has people preaching the health issue, people preaching in general and all about the person he LOVES. Throw in the limitations we have sometimes because of our size and ya,...
Anonymous asked: CAAAET CAAAET MEOW MEOW MEOW xoxo <3 vp
dankiidoll asked: As a person who is dating a fit guy I will say sometimes "growing up" has nothing to do with it. There are men who relentlessly pursue big women and don't plan on ever getting serious with any of them then there are men who are genuinely afraid(rightfully so from what I've heard) that people around them will shun them. Due to societies judgements you have to be incredibly...
jennylewren asked: To your "attractive" closeted guy who's worried about being pegged as gay. A. There's nothing wrong with being gay so I don't see the problem. 2. It's none of their business who you fuck. D. Coming out of the fat girl closet isn't nearly as hard as living life as a fat person. Seriously, grow the fuck up.
Anonymous asked: Also, if you don't wanna post my question so it doesn't insult people...but still just post a generic answer for guys having trouble "coming out" that would be cool too.
Anonymous asked: I did stickup for him etc... But what it comes down to is that yea I am in the closet and yes I am an attractive guy who has never really dated. When I date a fat chick... They are gonna assume I'm gay. I'm ready to move on from these friends I think and try to make new ones, I guess I don't know what my question is actually. This is just really hard and I want to know how to...
Anonymous asked: This is a follow up from the guy you told to fuck a stick. It's taken me a while to ask u this follow up question because 1. I don't want to hurt/insult your lovely lady followers and 2. I don't really want a flippant answer but I don't know who else to ask. Since you brought it up about gay people, that's one of my concerns too. There is a guy at my school who dates a...
