chocolatemilkandgingerbread asked: sista big bones by anthony hamilton... mostly important for pre-weightloss mo'nique in the music video
Will I lose followers if I make a Less’nique joke?
Anonymous asked: Know any fat positive songs? I want to find as many as possible :D
Bow Wow’s “Big Girls”
De La Soul’s “Baby Phat”
Dropkick Murphys’ “The Spicy McHaggis Jig”
Mika’s “Big Girl (You Are Beautiful)”
Prince’s “Gett Off”
Queen’s “Fat Bottomed Girls” obvs.
Big Dipper’s "Meat Quotient" (and lots of his music).
Not a lot of straight white people unless you count AC/DC’s "Whole Lotta Rosie" and other songs that only cop to fucking a fatty for the amusement of friends. They say art imitates life.
My favorite is the Darkness’ “Dinner Lady Arms,” which is a blast musically, making it all the more shitty that they laughed at their object of affection instead of with.
The best video of 2013 is incredibly fat-positive, featuring the great Janie Martinez with full dgaf belly nudity: Action Bronson’s “Strictly 4 My Jeeps.”
Do some research and you’ll find it’s apparently much easier to make a fat-positive video than a fat-positive song, if you scoop Duck Sauce’s Big Bad Wolf and Angelina Duplisea’s whole résumé.
Anonymous asked: what turns you on about fat chicks?
What turns you on about whatever size chicks you like?
crystalcanfly asked: I know you probably get this a lot or whatever. But, seriously, thank you for changing my view on the word 'fat'. My whole life, It's been used to describe me in a derogatory way and seeing the use of it on your blog in a positive manner is really nice :3 So thanks, for blogging and stuff. <3
Nothing derogatory about squishy perfection.
comicberks asked: Why do you think it is that some guys are so angry when a fat woman is interested in them? I've been on the receiving end of such anger myself. I don't get it. You don't have to be attracted to me, but to be pissed about it...? wtf?
DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?!?!?!?!1 I AM THIN GUY HOW DARE YOU
Maybe they’re a waste of skin cells who assumes it says something about their self-worth that a fat girl views them in the same league. It says so much more about their worth that they act like a complete log of shit to women.
Anonymous asked: Your blog is inspiring. I was arguing with a guy about bigger girls. He said no guy likes fat girls. I found it funny because I have guys hitting on me so his statement is definitely false. He had this thought that guys only like thin girls and girls only like ripped guys. His expression was funny when I told him I rather have a average guy with no definition than one with. I just wanted to share that with you.
You’re great but who is this asshole and why give him the time of day? He was seriously to your face “arguing” that no guys like you?
sobepoweredskinnyguy asked: Hello there, might I have some advice on how to find and court a fat girl? I'm terrible at starting conversations and all that, and awfully shy as well. Also, how should I respectfully compliment/encourage her if ever I do get close enough to date? How'd you end up finding your girlfriend? Thanks!
After the initial opening, don’t compliment her until you know her a little bit and it’s honest. Hold off on fat-related compliments for a bit unless she complains about her body, and don’t be creepy and oversell it if she does. If you’re having a physical moment or you’re already past the relationship point with her, feel free to illustrate the point with your hands and lips.
But all that stuff’s for later. In the meantime you should hone your conversation skills. Openings are the worst, even I don’t enjoy doing those except online. If you’re out with friends, turn one of the less immature ones into a wingman. Or even better, become one yourself. Mark my words: guys who like thin girls love having us as wingmen. Make yourself available for double dates with their friends and whatnot. You don’t have to like or sleep with any of them, just hone your skills to conversation going, lively and funny.
If that’s not what your group of friends is like, you’ll either have to use the internet—which is hardly a bad way to meet girls, though it requires patience while you develop a connection with someone so they take you seriously out of the huge pool of anonymous people who aren’t trying—or learn acceptable ways to approach a girl offline. Here’s a good primer on doing that without being creepy.
Anonymous asked: I got ditched by a girl a few months back and have finally got my balance back. I want to start dating again, but I am not a social creature and don't want to be used again. Have any advice?
You’re gonna get “used” again. Welcome to dating. Don’t emotionally invest in one person until it’s official, go on as many dates with different girls as possible, develop a thicker skin, be upfront with them, and one will start caring for your emotional well-being and taking interest more than the others. Only put yourself out there for someone who appears to be doing the same; this means honing your skills to read between the lines and look for acts of kindness and empathy on the part of someone before trusting them with your heart.
Anonymous asked: A fat girls guide to shower sex? Help!
This really depends on your shape, height of you and your partner, etc. Is bending over not cutting it?
Anonymous asked: Is there a website out there where I can find guys who are into bigger girls. I like average size guys, that's my problem so far. Not opposed to bigger men, but just not my preference. All the BBW singles websites are just for big guys looking for big girls... HELP
I don’t think this is true at all, and you didn’t say what sites you’re already using. Maybe put in your profile something about “No offense to the bigger guys, but I prefer thin or average-sized men” toward the top?